Candy Cane Marriage Vows

Candy Cane Marriage Vows

1) A person’s wedding should be magical.   Michelle Rosen and David Zornitsky had their own vision for that perfect day many dream of.  I love that they choose to throw away tradition and turn that special day into their own dream.  You really should check out the slide show on the following link to a New York Times article on their wedding.

http://www.nytimes.com/2009/04/26/fashion/weddings/26VOWS.html?ref=weddings

I have never been married.  Never meet the women who could even tolerate me for more than a few months.  🙂

My sister was married four times, so I have had some experience with weddings. 🙂

For those of you who are married I am interested in hearing about any part of the magic of your wedding.

If you have not been married what is your vision for that  day?

2)  In some parts of the world the tradition is for parents to arrange the marriage of their daughters, some as young as thirteen, some even younger.

Rekha Kalindi, a 12-year-old girl living in Bararola, India, had the courage to say no.

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From an article, by Ben Arnoldy, in the Christian Science Monitor:

http://www.csmonitor.com/2009/0424/p06s07-wosc.html

Rekha Kalindi, a 12-year-old girl living in Bararola, India, refused to get married when her parents tried to arrange one she wanted to stay in school.

Her revolt, and those of two other girls in the region, have halted new child marriages in their rural region of West Bengal, India.

The legal age for marriage in India is 18 for girls and 21 for boys. But recent study published in the Lancet found 44.5 percent of Indian women in their early 20s had been wed by the time they were 18. Of those, 22.6 percent had been married before age 16, 2.6 percent before age 13.”

If the life expectancy of the an adult is under 40, as it is in some places in the world,  I can understand that people need to start having babies at an early age, so they will live long enough to guide their children to adulthood.  

From what I have read about the practise of “child brides” I believe it is mostly done because that is the tradition that has been handed done, in some cultures for a thousand years or more.

I don’t see anything wrong with traditions, as long as we aren’t forced into them.  When conditions change, such as people living longer, societies need to re-evaluate their rules and customs, even if they have existed for a thousand years.

Can you think of any cultural tradition that should never change?

Are there any cutltral traditions in the country you live in that you think need to be changed?