“With their tightly laced corsets, long skirts, heavy shoes, and upswept hair, the mothers of 1908 bear little physical resemblance to their counterparts in 2008, dressed in shorts, Spandex, and sneakers. But as today’s busy mothers savor their holiday, some might think longingly of simpler times, before women spoke of “juggling” or “balancing” work and family. They might even be tempted to idealize mothers of a century ago, whose serene images grace family photo albums.
But wait. “It’s not a time to be romanticized,” says Stephanie Coontz, a historian and author of “Marriage: A History.” “Mothers in 1908 spent less time mothering than they do today. Even in the middle classes, they spent much less time with their kids than we would have imagined.”
One reason for this time deficit involves work. “Most families needed several wage earners,” Ms. Coontz says. “Women took in boarders, did sewing at home, cleaning, and all sorts of jobs that weren’t counted as jobs on the Census but were time-consuming.”
“Even mothers without paid employment labored endlessly doing housework. In 1908, a New York settlement worker estimated that the average woman, even in middle-class families, spent 40 hours a week just cleaning and shopping. Laundry was an arduous, two-day task, washing one day and ironing the next. Wood and coal stoves required tending and cleaning.”
“The mothers of 1908, like their counterparts today, received advice from pediatricians. Emmett Holt, author of “The Care and Feeding of Children,” was the Dr. Spock of his era, Coontz says. His advice to women: Don’t pick babies up when they cry, and do not breast-feed. And a noted psychologist, Dr. J.B. Watson, cautioned against using pacifiers or indulging in displays of affection. He wrote, “When you are tempted to pet your child, remember that mother love is a dangerous instrument.”
“In the early 1900s, about 10 percent of families were single-parent households, partly because of death and partly because of a high rate of abandonment. “A lot of women were living apart from their husbands,” says Steven Mintz, a historian at Columbia University.”
“Even so, Professor Mintz says, “Life was tough in ways we don’t appreciate.” Life expectancy was 51. Infant mortality was high. Most women could not vote.
In 1907, Laura Clarke Rockwood wrote poignantly in The Craftsman magazine about the need to simplify housekeeping: “This mother of to-day hurries from kitchen to nursery and over the other parts of the house, performing as best she can the many home duties of our times. But she is so overwearied in the doing of it all that the deep well of mother love which should overflow, flooding the world with happiness and cheer, runs well nigh dry at times.”
http://www.csmonitor.com/2008/0508/p17s02-hfgn.html
Every era presented it’s problems. I suspect it is no easier, or harder, to raise children now than it was 100 years ago, the challenges are just different.
If you could pick a decade over the last 100 years which would you pick to raise your children in?

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May 9, 2008 at 3:08 pm
Indian Lake Papa
I have been raising mine over the last 4 decades! Still play a part. I am not sure which decade - maybe 1920’s - I’d be done by now! :o)
May 10, 2008 at 3:33 pm
Anonymous
Hi Ed…I came over from Indian Lake Papa’s site. What an interesting read about Mother’s Day, historically speaking. Wow…I would much rather be a mother in 2008 than 1908, but I guess if I had to pick another time I would have wanted to raise my children, I think the years in which I grew up were some pretty neat times…the 1950-60’s. I could ride my bike seven miles into town and my parents didn’t have to worry about where I was or if I’d be back home again. The big event of the year, besides Christmas and Easter (new toys and new dresses) was getting ready to go back to school…getting a new lunch box, and having a new sweater for fall weather in Michigan, and getting on that bus the first day of the new school year…actually my elementary years I had to walk a mile in knee-high snow to the one room country school house where we dried our mittens out under the wood burning stove….but even that time had it’s pleasures and treasures! Good post, Mr. Ed!
May 10, 2008 at 3:36 pm
Carol
Hey…it’s me…anonymous…didn’t realize it would come up that way, so this time I will insert my information as requested to the left of my comment.
May 10, 2008 at 3:37 pm
Carol
How about one more time….I put my blog site address as my email…I’ll get this right yet, and meanwhile your comments log is rolling on up there…grin!
May 11, 2008 at 11:54 am
edfromct
Hi Carol, thanks for stopping by with a comment. It is interesting to look back and see the differences in each era. I agree that life did seemed simpler in the 1950’s. I could walk all around town with my dog at my side and feel safe. Children were being prepared to live a life based on the traditional role models of the past. Everyone know their neighbor and probably everything about their lives.
My perception is that in the 1900 - 1930 era family life was much simpler, everyone know their role in society. A child would grow up with a lifestyle much like your parents, but with physical dangerous of the illness and the workplace, there was not guarantee that a child would survive to be an adult or that a parent would live long enough to be a grandparent, things we pretty much take for granted now.
The 1940’s was dominated by World War II. This was a decade were just getting through day to day was probably the main focus.
The 1950’s was I think a transitional decade between World War II and the revolutionary 1960’s. In the 1960’s “Women’s Liberation” the Civil Rights Movement, Viet Nam and Watergate set the stage for the American lifestyle we see today.
In the 1950’s a person’s world was still mostly the neighborhood they lived in. Now people move around the country and the world. Up to the 1960’s what most people knew of the world around them was what they read in the paper or were told by their leaders. Now all the information in the world is just a mouse click away. This does mean getting a good education, and job training, are now life long necessity.
Any child, not matter their gender, can choose whatever role they want in life and have some expectation of achieving it. Of course many of the family support systems of the past are now gone.
My guess is that we have more freedom now and more stress, or at least a different kind of stress.